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Oral Sex Techniques
Oral sex techniques can help you to increase the amount of satisfaction that your partner gets from oral sex itself, and also increase the intensity of their eventual orgasm. Here are some oral sex techniques that you can use to drive your lover wild in bed…
Fellatio Techniques
1 – Don’t be afraid of using your hand and masturbating your man whilst you have his cock in your mouth. Although the head (or glans, if you prefer) is the most sensitive part of the penis, stimulating the shaft as well will add a lot to his pleasure.
2 – Use your tongue in different ways. Flick the head of his cock with the tip of your tongue, rub the underside of the shaft (just below the head) with the flat of your tongue and feel free to take his cock out of your mouth and lick it like an ice cream.
3 – Make eye contact. Men are visually stimulated, so look at him when you’re giving him head and let him see how much you’re enjoying it.
4 – Act ravenous. Men love the idea of their wives being hungry for their cocks, so let yourself go and be enthusiastic about it. Just be careful with your teeth, please.
5 – If your hub wants to come in your mouth and you’re not keen because you don’t want his load hitting the back of your throat and making you gag, you can do what many porn stars do and tuck the head of his dick under your tongue as he comes. This will control the flow at the moment of ejaculation and you can then spit or swallow when he has finished.
Cunnilingus Techniques
1 – Don’t go straight for the clitoris. Instead, spend some time licking and gently sucking the lips of her pussy before circling the clit and – eventually – stimulating it directly with your tongue.
2 – You can use your tongue in many different ways (as I told women a few moments ago). Try lapping at her with your tongue loose and flat or using the tip of your tongue to provide more direct massage. You can also try stimulating her clit with the underside of your tongue, as many women love the sensation that gives.
3 – Use your fingers at the same time as you eat your woman out. Insert a finger or two (with the pads of your fingertips facing the ceiling, assuming she’s lying on her back) and massage her G Spot gently at first and then as firmly as she likes when she gets closer to orgasm.
4 – Some women – though by no means all – also like a finger inserted in their anus during cunnilingus. If you aren’t sure about this, either ask her beforehand or have the little finger of your free hand lubed and in the vicinity of her ass as you eat her out. Ever so lightly touch her anus and if she likes what you’re doing she’ll automatically bear down on your finger or tell you to go for it. Just remember that once a finger or anything else has been near her ass, you should never use it to stimulate her clitoral or vaginal region, as this could cause an infection.
Is driving your spouse wild in bed as easy as using these oral sex techniques? Try them tonight and find out!
Say My Name, Bitch
“Say my name, bitch!” is a line from American Pie (delivered brilliantly by Alyson Hannigan) that stays with most people who have seen the movie. “Say my name” – with or without the bitch – is also the title of several popular songs. Now, as if making a further evolutionary leap, it’s the title of this post here at Hot Married Sex.
Married couples tend to call each other lots of different names when having hot sex and even not-so-hot sex. The names range from the gentle babe, honey, love and sweetheart (I’ll stop there before I need a bucket) to the much more intense bastard, bitch and slut. But the most powerful name you can call your partner isn’t any of these. No, the one that works the most magic is so close to home that most of us forget to use it. I am referring, of course, to their Christian name.
What often happens in a marriage is that we get so used to being with our husband or wife that they become, to a great extent, a part of us. This makes for a very comfortable relationship, but it also has its downsides. One downside is that we forget to tell them how much we really care about them (“She should know that by now, dammit!”). Another is that it can make it easier for us to take them for granted. And a third is that we forget to connect directly with them when making love, fucking, having hot sex or whatever else you want to call it.
Imagine how you would feel if, the next time your partner approaches orgasm, they were to look right into your eyes and moan, gasp or scream your real name before finally allowing themselves to be enveloped by their climax. The chances are that hearing them say your name instead of “God!”, “Yes!” or “Yeah Baby!” would have a pretty big impact on you. You’d feel a more intense connection, a greater sense of satisfaction and a more profound feeling of the hot sex having some real meaning.
If you agree with any of that, your homework for the next time you have hot sex is simple: give your husband or wife those incredible feelings by using their real name. Don’t repeat their name throughout the session so that you sound like you’re trying to sell them something, but do be sure to connect with them in this way as you reach your orgasm. It’s a very simple idea, but most people find that it’s a very powerful one.
Sex Games
Sex games are a great way of spicing up your sex life, and you don’t need to invest a lot of time or cash to start benefiting from them. In fact, there are several hot games you could play tonight if you already have a few common items around the house.
Sexy Hangman
Grab a notepad and pencil and play hangman, but instead of having your partner guess the names of movies or books, focus on sexual statements of intention such as: “I want to lick you out” or “I want to give you a blow job”. See how many statements you can work through before you start acting them out.
Strip Sex Games
You can turn almost any card or board game into a sex game simply by agreeing to remove an item of clothing whenever you do badly. For example, you could play snakes and ladders and strip something off whenever you slide down a snake, or you could play checkers and strip something off whenever your partner takes one of your pieces.
Strip Twister
Okay, so I’ve already suggested strip games, but Twister is so unique that it warrants its own paragraph as a completely separate sex game. Basically, all you have to do here is play twister and get your partner to remove an item of clothing every time they fall over. Play long enough and at least one of you should be naked. Hmmm. That Twister mat is made of plastic. Be careful with the lube or you might slip.
Truth or Dare
You don’t need any props at all for this sex game. Yep, it’s that old favourite Truth or Dare. Turn the lights low, open a bottle of your favourite beverage and sit together on a warm sofa, then take it in turns to choose a Truth or Dare. If your partner chooses a Truth, ask them something that will force them to reveal more of their sexual psyche. For example, “How many times have you thought of sex today?” If they choose a Dare, consider it an invitation to boss them around for a moment. For example, to paraphrase a couple of statements I gave earlier, you could say “I dare you to lick me out” or “I dare you to give me a blow job”.
I’m sure there are other sex games that you and your spouse can enjoy together, but the ideas given here should at least be enough to get you through the weekend, and you’re sure to be a winner no matter what happens…
Erotica For Her
In an effort to keep things fresh here at Hot Married Sex, today’s post is a piece of erotica for women. It’s explicit and might not be to the taste of everyone, so don’t say you weren’t warned. Comments are welcome. Enjoy!
So you’re sitting there in front of your computer reading my blog. I knew you would. I know how you like to check up on me and see what I’m writing. You might pretend to be prim and proper on the outside, but what goes on inside that pretty head of yours is a very different story.
In the privacy of your own mind you have all sorts of dirty thoughts. In fact, you’re a bit of a dirty little slut, aren’t you? Don’t worry, I won’t tell.
I like to imagine you reading these words. I like to imagine watching you. You’re sat there with your legs slightly open. Open them a bit wider so that I can get a better view. That’s right. Hmmm. So tempting…
How does it feel when I kneel down in front of you, place one hand on each of your knees and force your legs apart even further? I lean forward and kiss the fabric of your panties, nuzzling your crotch. I run the tip of my tongue along the edge of your panties, then maybe pull them aside when you least expect it.
You like me to circle your clit with my tongue, don’t you? To suck, gently at first, and then a little harder. My hands support your ass, lifting you slightly so that I can work your pussy more effectively with my mouth, my tongue running along your groove and then suddenly probing your opening.
You like being tongue-fucked, I can tell, but I’m not here to serve. I’m here to give you the pleasure of being used. I stand up and unbutton my jeans, then unzip my fly. I grab the back of your head and pull you toward my crotch as I bring my erect cock out to play. I don’t wait for you to give your permission, I just slide my cock into your hot mouth and start thrusting slowly, my hand still supporting your head.
Hmmm. You’re greedy. You’re taking it so deep that you make the occasional gagging noise, and your eyes are watering. Black rivulets of mascara are running down your cheeks. Makes you look like a common whore.
And you like that, don’t you?
I withdraw from your mouth, pull you to your feet and make you stand over your desk with your hands palm-down on the surface. Behind you, I take a look at the sumptuous curves of your ass and lift your skirt, then pull your panties down and let them fall to your ankles. I enter you quickly, perhaps a little roughly, grabbing a handful of your hair with my left hand as my thrusting establishes a rhythm.
You like being taken like this. You can’t see me because of my position, but you can certainly feel my cock driving into you again and again.
Harder.
Faster.
Deeper.
I reach around and find your clit with my right hand, rubbing you hard and fast as my cock continues to shaft your hot, tight pussy. Rubbing in small circles, you begin writhing until you feel the warm wave of your orgasm exploding through your body.
I wait for your climax to subside, then withdraw and turn you around. A hand on your shoulder pushes you down onto your knees and I quickly bring my penis back to your lips, then slide it over the surface of your tongue into your mouth.
Finish me, bitch.
That’s right. Work it like a pro. Let me hold your head as I fuck your face. I’m gonna cum any minute. I’m gonna –
I grunt as the urge to shoot in your mouth overwhelms me and you immediately start sucking me dry. You have an evil glint in your eye that tells me you love the sense of power and control that this gives you. For a long moment, I’m putty in your hands, and you know it. When you’re done, you lick your lips salaciously and pat me on the ass before tidying yourself up and getting on with your business.
Now who’s been using who? I wonder…
How To Spice Up Your Sex Life
How to spice up your sex life is a question that lots of people are asking. I am fortunate that I enjoy a hot married sex life, but I know that there are plenty of couples who don’t. So, for the benefit of those who want better married sex, today’s post provides a number of tips on how to spice up sex.
To start with, define exactly how you want your sex life to improve. Do you just want more married sex? Or do you want to be more adventurous? Maybe you want to try and unleash the “slut wife” that you believe is hiding within your spouse. Or perhaps you want sex with your husband to be more aggressive and less pedestrian. Whatever the case, knowing what you want is the best place to begin.
Once you have defined what you want, ask yourself if your husband or wife has ever been that way before. For example, if you want your husband to be more dominant in bed, ask yourself if he’s ever been dominant in bed. If he has, try and figure out what triggered him to be like that, and then work on creating a similar situation that might trigger him to dominate you in the same way. The same applies for men. If your wife has previously revealed a slutty side, ask yourself what triggered it and then work on triggering it again in a similar way. Sometimes the simple act of deliberately pushing the buttons of your husband or wife can be enough to spice things up considerably.
If your spouse has never been the way you want them to be, you need to bring the subject up in conversation. It is often a good idea to suggest a role play scenario so that the spicier sex life is proposed as a one-off experience. For example, if you are pursuing the whole “wife slut” idea, you could suggest that you role play a scenario in which she is a nasty, naughty slut. Or, if you want your husband to be more dominant, you could suggest that he fucks you harder and more forcefully than usual. Exactly how you phrase your suggestions will depend on your spouse – your aim should be to make the role play sound appealing, not appalling.
Another good way of spicing up married sex is to introduce them to new ideas less directly. Buy some erotic fiction or sexually explicit movies to share together, and suggest that it might be fun to act out some of the scenarios that you are both enjoying.
My last suggestion is to be as direct as possible. Sit down with your husband or wife say that you think it would be a good idea for the two of you to spice things up a bit. Then ask them if they have any ideas about how you might go about it. You could well be surprised to discover that your spouse is just as keen as you are to make your husband and wife sex even hotter.
Muff-Diving versus Cunnilingus
In my previous post on Screaming Orgasms I somehow – accidentally, inadvertently, and undeliberately – used the phrase “muff-diving” to refer to the act of cunnilingus. It has now come to my attention that said “muff-diving” is a term that some women don’t like.
Maybe it’s because it makes cunnilingus sound like an Olympic sport. Or maybe some women don’t like to refer to their muffs as muffs because they shave their pubes. In this case, would a shaved muff be better referred to as a buff? And would buff-diving then be a similarly unacceptable term?
It never ceases to amaze me how language divides people, especially in the area of sexuality. Should we say vagina, pussy or something else? Should we say penis, cock or dick? Is cunnilingus preferable to muff-diving, eating out or drinking from the furry bowl? And what about fellatio? Is that really any more polite than saying cock-sucking or dick-licking?
Some people could get offended when I refer to hot sex as “fucking”, because they might assume that fucking doesn’t involve love. But for me, it does, because I only ever fuck my wife, and I love her to bits. And that brings me to my point, which is this: words can only be offensive when the person being offended brings their own definition to those words.
When I say muff-diving I mean the fine art of going down on my lady and performing a loving act of cunnilingus. That’s my definition of the phrase, so I don’t find it offensive or intend offence when I use it. However, if you picture a guy standing on a diving board wearing a snorkel and flippers, about to make a leap of faith into an overgrown pussy – sorry, vagina – then I can understand how it might not be such a pretty phrase for you. But remember, YOU put that guy in flippers, not me.
So, whilst you’re here, make yourself useful and tell me what words you prefer to use for the following. Also tell me which words for the following turn you on the most, if those are different:
1 – Penis
2 – Vagina
3 – Sexual Intercourse
4 – Fellatio
5 – Cunnilingus
Anniversary Sex
Today my wife and I are celebrating our 18th wedding anniversary, which means we’ve been together now for two whole decades. Those of you who haven’t been married long will be pleased to hear that the relationship gets better, the marriage gets stronger and the sex gets hotter as time goes on.
Eighteen years ago we were both in our very early twenties and fairly naïve about life in general as well as about how creative sex could be. We’ve discovered together what it’s all about, and there have been plenty of laughs, quarrels, tears, low points and high points along the way. But the bottom line is that I love my wife more today than I did when I married her – and she still makes my boat float on a regular basis.
We’re celebrating the way we always celebrate – with a bottle of champagne and some hot anniversary sex. For those of you who are wondering, anniversary sex is a bit like Friday Night Filth, but it comes along just once a year and we tend to be a tad more romantic than usual. Well, we start out that way…
Sex is great. Hot sex is better. But hot married sex is, in my opinion, the best there is, and I intend to continue enjoying it with my wife for the rest of my nights.
Screaming Orgasms
Screaming orgasms might sound like the title of a porn movie, but it’s actually a goal that many couples aspire to achieve. I suppose a screaming orgasm could best be defined as an orgasm so powerful that the lady in question can’t help but make a particularly loud noise, but men can experience the same kind of intensity too – we just tend to grunt rather than squeal.
There is nothing that can guarantee a screaming orgasm (other than getting the wife to deliberately scream when it happens, which is cheating) but there are several steps we can take to make it more likely. I’m writing here primarily for men who want to help their wives experience a screamer, but women who are reading can just as easily apply the same principles to help their husbands crank up the volume when they cum.
Build Up
A screaming orgasm is much more likely if the build up to that orgasm has been lengthy. I don’t just mean 30 or 60 minutes of foreplay, I mean hours of teasing throughout the day. Use dirty talk to get you wife revved up to the point of dampness. Maybe use a little manual stimulation to bring her to the very edge. Then back off until she cools off. Do this several times throughout the day and by the time she gets to bed she should be almost ready to climb the walls.
Avoid The Obvious
When you finally get to the bedroom, you should avoid getting straight down to business. By all means stroke the insides of her thighs, and circle your finger around her clit, but don’t actually push her button or make contact where she wants you to make contact. A good rule of thumb is to spend 15 minutes of foreplay caressing her everywhere except where she really wants to be caressed. It sounds like torture, and it probably is, but it’s a very loving and erotic kind of torture that she will ultimately appreciate.
Take Several Runs
When you feel the time is right, do whatever you normally do to get your wife off. If she has any preferences about how she prefers to orgasm, go for her favourite. Some women like to come through intercourse. Many more would prefer you to practice your muff-diving skills. Others like oral and digital stimulation combined, so both your tongue and your fingers should get involved.
However you go for it, bring her to the edge of orgasm and then stop dead. Withdraw your cock, withdraw your fingers and come up for air. Let the moment subside. Then start again, bringing her to the edge and backing off. Do this several times. If she begins calling you names and writhing like a snake, you know you’re doing it right.
The Big Finish
Having taken several runs at the objective, it’s now time to go for the big finish, but don’t tell her “this is it” or you’ll spoil the element of surprise. Repeat whatever you did in the previous step (that is, deliver her favourite form of stimulation) but this time keep going until he reaches her climax. And keep on going. Continuing to stimulate your wife as she orgasms can often extend that orgasm quite considerably, so don’t stop until she’s totally spent.
You might not help your wife to have screaming orgasms every time you use the ideas presented here, but you’ll certainly help her to achieve orgasms that make her want to scream. And in my book, that’s just as good.
