“Say my name, bitch!” is a line from American Pie (delivered brilliantly by Alyson Hannigan) that stays with most people who have seen the movie. “Say my name” – with or without the bitch – is also the title of several popular songs. Now, as if making a further evolutionary leap, it’s the title of [...]
Anniversary Sex
Today my wife and I are celebrating our 18th wedding anniversary, which means we’ve been together now for two whole decades. Those of you who haven’t been married long will be pleased to hear that the relationship gets better, the marriage gets stronger and the sex gets hotter as time goes on.
Eighteen years ago we [...]
Increasing Sexual Tension
Yesterday I put forward the idea that sexual tension leads to hot sex. If this is the case, how can we increase the amount of sexual tension in our marriage without damaging the relationship itself? Well, there are in fact several ways, and the most useful are as follows:
Retain Some Independence – Although it’s inevitable [...]
Sexual Tension
Sexual tension plays a big role in the ability to enjoy hot sex over a lifetime with your spouse. My very simple equation is Quantity of Tension = Temperature of Sex. Bear with me and I’ll explain what I mean.
When a couple get together for the first time, there’s a lot of sexual tension because [...]
WTF is Hot Sex?
Hot sex is not the kind of term that is particularly self-explanatory, because we all have our own ideas of what hot sex means. For one couple, having sex with the lights on might represent the pinnacle of hotness. For another, sex might only be viewed as hot if it involves bondage rope, two bottles [...]
Erotic Photography
Erotic photography can be a turn-on for many married couples, and I’m not really talking about just looking at it. Actually grabbing a camera and taking erotic pictures of each other in various states of dress and/or undress can do wonders for the libido.
Exactly why erotic photography is so powerful a tool is difficult to [...]
Another Sex Video
It seems that sex videos are a bit like taxis and buses here in the UK – you wait for ages and then watch several turn up at once. Here’s another funny “sex” video and, like the last one, it’s a television commercial – this time from furniture manufacturer and retailer IKEA. It’s not the [...]
Talking Dirty for Better Sex
Talking dirty is one of the simplest yet most powerful ways to better sex that I know of, but what exactly is it, why does it work and how can we make it more effective. Those are the questions I want to explore here.
Dirty talk can best be defined as “sexually provocative language”. In other [...]
Humorous Sex Video
I came across this humorous video on YouTube and I thought it was a great illustration of miscommunication in marriage and how it can lead to sexual frustration. The video is actually a commercial for a telecommunications company, so it’s safe viewing for anyone.
