How To Spice Up Your Sex Life

How to spice up your sex life is a question that lots of people are asking. I am fortunate that I enjoy a hot married sex life, but I know that there are plenty of couples who don’t. So, for the benefit of those who want better married sex, today’s post provides a number of tips on how to spice up sex.

To start with, define exactly how you want your sex life to improve. Do you just want more married sex? Or do you want to be more adventurous? Maybe you want to try and unleash the “slut wife” that you believe is hiding within your spouse. Or perhaps you want sex with your husband to be more aggressive and less pedestrian. Whatever the case, knowing what you want is the best place to begin.

Once you have defined what you want, ask yourself if your husband or wife has ever been that way before. For example, if you want your husband to be more dominant in bed, ask yourself if he’s ever been dominant in bed. If he has, try and figure out what triggered him to be like that, and then work on creating a similar situation that might trigger him to dominate you in the same way. The same applies for men. If your wife has previously revealed a slutty side, ask yourself what triggered it and then work on triggering it again in a similar way. Sometimes the simple act of deliberately pushing the buttons of your husband or wife can be enough to spice things up considerably.

If your spouse has never been the way you want them to be, you need to bring the subject up in conversation. It is often a good idea to suggest a role play scenario so that the spicier sex life is proposed as a one-off experience. For example, if you are pursuing the whole “wife slut” idea, you could suggest that you role play a scenario in which she is a nasty, naughty slut. Or, if you want your husband to be more dominant, you could suggest that he fucks you harder and more forcefully than usual. Exactly how you phrase your suggestions will depend on your spouse – your aim should be to make the role play sound appealing, not appalling.

Another good way of spicing up married sex is to introduce them to new ideas less directly. Buy some erotic fiction or sexually explicit movies to share together, and suggest that it might be fun to act out some of the scenarios that you are both enjoying.

My last suggestion is to be as direct as possible. Sit down with your husband or wife say that you think it would be a good idea for the two of you to spice things up a bit. Then ask them if they have any ideas about how you might go about it. You could well be surprised to discover that your spouse is just as keen as you are to make your husband and wife sex even hotter.